People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life."
— Eat, Pray, Love
— Eat, Pray, Love
You know how your reflection looks in a mirror, it's very much identical but sometimes you look at it and you feel like that person staring back at you feels... like it isn't you. It could be the lighting, the specks of dust on the mirror, or how you always look into the mirror but you weren't exactly seeing your reflection. You were just looking. Then there's the way your reflection mirrors you, the direct opposite of all your actions. But... it's still you.
And when you look hard at your reflection, you might see things you've never once noticed before. It could be how dark and round your eyes are, how your lashes are long and fluttery, how your skin glows, how your lips curve into a perfect little cupid's bow, how your hair cascades down in sweet little waves, how delicate your fingers are, how your waist goes down in a feminine curve... All your good points that you've overlooked.
And then there's that parading of an army of annoying black heads on your nose, the split ends waving at you with their little flicks, how your christmas dinner is showing, how your laughlines are laughing back at you... and you think to yourself " I need to take care of myself more, some changes would be nice " .
That's tantamount to what your soulmate does. Your soulmates rediscovers the good in you that you once forgot and you learn to appreciate yourself more. Your soulmate points out the little flaws in you that when changed, could make you happier. But just like your reflection, your soulmate never does the changing, never tries to... it's always up to you.
You can be yourself around your soulmate, because even though he isn't you, he makes you feel so comfortable, so at ease ... that you think you're being around yourself. But you're not alone. You'd ask for space and he'll give it to you, he'll love you just as much as you love him, he'll want you to have happiness as much as you want him to, because he understands you, he's not you, but he knows you.
And to find a soulmate in a lover, that's all that anyone could ask for.
When you're buck naked under the sheets just cuddling and falling asleep, you can smile yourself to sleep ..forgetting the world.
For at that moment... that moment is all that matters.